Saturday 17 August 2013

How to Deal with The Egyptian/Syrian & Other Crises?

What is happening in Egypt, Syria and other parts of the Muslim World is appalling. Rightly so, these injustices and atrocities make us feel angry. But should we speak and act based on this anger? If not what must we to do?

Crises occur all the time in our lives - some are big and some are small - personal crises, family crises, marriage crises, work crises, financial crises, religious crises and social crises. What is common in all these crises, big or small, is that we can easily become frustrated and angry. When, as most often happens, we act on these emotions/impulses our problems - far from being resolved - are only made worse. We become trapped in a vicious cycle. The only way out is to know how to discipline our anger, stress and frustration.

On this point Shaykh Dr Mohammad Akram Nadwi writes as follows:

Even more than stress, anger can be a good thing. Indeed, not to feel anger when faced with the injustices suffered by others is most probably a sin. We do and we should feel anger when we see wrong-doing – it is a necessary part of being averse to wrong-doing. But that anger itself becomes a wrong-doing if it is indulged instead of being disciplined. The issue then is how to achieve that discipline.

Generally, the immediate cause of anger is frustration of our will. We want something, or we want someone to do something, and if we do not get what we want, someone does not do what we want, we get angry. If the source of what we say or do next is that anger, the likelihood is that what we say or do will be wrong and lead to further wrong. The sudden access of emotion that constitutes such anger must be calmed. I will go through some of the things that the Prophet recommended to achieve that calming – if you are standing, sit down, if sitting, stand up; move away from the scene; do wudu’; and so on. The common element in this advice is to distract yourself so that you do not speak or act from inside your anger. Once you have separated yourself from the sudden access of emotion, you can begin to examine the reasons for it. You can begin to assess your need for that thing you wanted which you did not get: is the need real, is the desire real, and if the need or desire is not satisfied straightaway does it really matter? Do you have any right to demand or expect that someone should do what you want; do you have some responsibility for them; are you sure they really knew or understood what you wanted; is what you wanted good for them or only for you? This effort to question the emotion of anger disciplines it, converts a self-centred frustration into a concern to say and do the right thing. - Shaykh Dr Mohammad Akram Nadwi (from the notes to the Stress and Anger Management Seminar)

Although managing and disciplining anger seems like a minor issue it is the most important skill one can acquire for the well-being of the self, family and society. Thus when a man said to the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam, "Advise me!" The Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam said, "Do not become angry and furious." The man asked the same again and then a third time, and the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam said in each case, "Do not become angry and furious."

"If our prayer is ennobled by the grace of ihsan, if we strive through our speech and actions to make the moment beautiful, if our reliance on God’s mercy is true and actual, we will be provided with hope. Hope is the fuel that enables us to keep our system going, and not to collapse from stress and anger into a wasteful passivity, or some worse sin." - Shaykh Dr Mohammad Akram Nadwi

This is the final chance to register for the unique life-enhancing seminar on Sunday. You can either attend in person or watch live/recorded online.

In this life enhancing seminar you will learn about:
  • The meaning and types of anger and stress
  • The various causes of anger and stress
  • The medical perspective on anger and stress - signs, symptoms, diagnosis and treatment 
  • General Islamic treatment for anger and stress
  • Specific Islamic treatment for specific types of anger and stress
  • Examples from the lives of the pious people on dealing with anger and stress
  • Practical advice on how to turn negative anger and stress in to positive thoughts and action
  • How to help others suffering from anger and stress
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This seminar on Stress & Anger Management is also:
  • The Ideal Love, Marriage and Family Seminar
  • The Ideal Parenting and Child Development Seminar
  • The Ideal Self Development Seminar
  • The Ideal Leadership Seminar
  • The Ideal Communications Seminar
  • The Ideal Purification of The Soul Seminar
  • The Ideal Character Building Seminar
  • The Ideal Protection from Shaithan Seminar
  • And many more.....
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Islamic Psychology Series
Stress & Anger Management
Islamic & Medical Perspectives

By Shaykh Dr Mohammad Akram Nadwi (Oxford) and

Special Guest: Dr Muhammad Zeyn Green-Thompson
(Consultant Psychiatrist, Cambridge)

Sunday 18 August 2013    Time: 10.00AM - 6.00PM

Venue: Queen Mary, University of London, Mile End Road, London E1 4NS

This seminar is suitable for both individuals and families. Crèche facilities available for younger children. Whole-day free parking provided. Venue is less than 5-minutes walk from Mile End Tube Station. <<< Click Here To Register

Posts for this seminar:
How to Deal with The Egyptian/Syrian & Other Crises?
How to Cope with The Constant Stresses of The Modern Life?
Anger & Stress - The #1 Killer of Mind, Body & Family
Are You A Parent or A Teacher? Do You Get Stressed and Angry?
Stress & Anger Management - Islamic & Medical Perspectives  

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